Im currently on a intermittent fasting regimen and my family has finally caught up to what Ive been doing. Theyre basically saying that im killing myself and this is not the way to lose weight/be healthy.

Coming from a family that food and eating together 2 to 3 times a day is a center, this is tough for me. We tend to argue alot when I tell them I simply just dont eat when im not hungry and that I only eat at specific times of the day.

Ive been worming out one excuse after the other but theyre calling BS now on most of it.

Most of the time its my mom who is going ape about it, and with good reason too (I had hyper acidity growing up, she insists that it will comeback because of fasting, while in fact deprogramming my body with IF has tremendously helped my acidity issues to the point that I dont experience hyper acidity anymore)

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    Voted to close, there really isn't a question in there.
    – JohnP
    Commented Dec 31, 2013 at 15:06
  • Should i explain better? Mostly im asking how can i explain to people that im on a diet of some sort without them going all wild eye crazy on the things i tell them.
    – reverb
    Commented Dec 31, 2013 at 15:51
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    @JohnP Did you read the title?
    – Josh
    Commented Dec 31, 2013 at 22:49
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    @SoylentGreen - Yes, I did, thank you for your thinly veiled sarcasm. I still don't think it relates to exercise as allowed by the help topics. But that's the nice thing about the site, people are free to disagree and answer. :)
    – JohnP
    Commented Jan 1, 2014 at 15:03

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The best you can do is:

  • Gather facts about what you are doing, hopefully backed by scientific studies.
  • Gather facts on how your body is improving. Regular physicals or blood work will arm you with how your body is responding to the regimen.
  • Ask questions to engage in dialog.
  • Don't get dogmatic. Understand that your family is trying to look out for you, so this isn't something that should divide the family. Also there is more than one right answer.

When you are gaining facts, look at both sides of the argument. This will help you gain a better understanding of why things work. One example is an article on how intermittent fasting stacks up against science. Also understand that there are different variations of intermittent fasting, each with their own advantages/disadvantages.

The bottom line is that when you take proper steps toward improving your health, your body will respond in kind. The fact that the eating protocol is helping your acidity issues is great, but do understand it might be more related to better food choices rather than just the timing of your food.

How to disarm negative arguments

The first thing to do is ask, "why do you think this will hurt me?" There may be something more specific than just intermittent fasting at the core of their concerns. There might be something you can improve in your approach to intermittent fasting. When you hear the concern, and you actually do have an answer for it, share the basis of what you are doing and how it's affecting your health. If you don't have an answer for it, then simply answer "I haven't considered that, where can I get more information?" (do your own search on the information, both pro and con trying to find information from people who actually know about nutrition).

You might be able to arrive at a way to address your health concerns and your family's concerns at the same time. For example, if your variant of intermittent fasting is like the Lean Gains protocol, you have an 8 hour eating window which is ample time for 3 meals a day--and you also have requirements for your macro-nutrients which will improve your overall health. This would probably work better for your situation than a 6 days eating, 1 day fast (or worse a 5/2 day split).

Bottom line is find a middle ground that is based on facts that both you and your family can be happy with.

  • Thanks so much for your input. Im already getting into gathering palatable tidbits of info that arent too technical so that I can explain what IF does. Only problem now is how to get them to listen without them blocking me out at the earliest possible chance, but I'll get to that myself. Again, thanks.
    – reverb
    Commented Jan 2, 2014 at 9:12

"Theyre basically saying that im killing myself and this is not the way to lose weight/be healthy."

I really hope they are all straight-edge people who don't touch alcohol, cigarettes, or other drugs. Otherwise, it would be very hypocritical, wouldn't it? ;)

The fact is that working out improves not only the physical you, but the psychological self. You will learn to self-motivate yourself at a much higher level, develop a tougher mental outlook, and start learning to break through barriers (in this case by lifting heavier weights).

  • I agree with you on the psychological aspect. Never in my life have I really embodied the "get up and go" attitude if it weren't for my active decision to change my life around. But to answer your question, nah my family's pretty clean cut. They just tend to hog around sweets and pastries but overall they dont take any vice or anything of that nature.
    – reverb
    Commented Jan 4, 2014 at 16:42

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