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As you may know, the glutes are the largest and most powerful muscles in the human body. Some exercises, if performed with proper form, simply can't be done without major glute activation. Based on your complaints, here are a few of things I've identified that are standing in the way of you getting the results you want with your glutes:
1. Poor muscle recruitment
Let's start here. I'm saying this because you mentioned that you have big quads and calves from working hard on the lower-body. What this tells me is that you don't have a strong mind-muscle connection with your glutes. This is called a neuromuscular recruitment pattern, which basically means you use your quads to do most of the work because that's how you've developed. This is really common. Just google "quad dominant squatting" or "squat glute activation".
The fix involves learning how to use your glutes. Recruitment patterns develop over thousands and thousands of iterations. You'll need to spend some time doing movements that should activate your glutes, but actually concentrate on activating them. You'll have a tendency to revert to your habitual (incorrect) form, so you'll need to be diligent in letting yourself start from scratch. To do this, we need to put a stop to the anterior pelvic tilt. This is super common with people who spend most of their time sitting:
For squats, push your knees out as wide as you can at the bottom. Always keep pushing your knees out throughout the movement. Keep your feet pointing as straight as possible. Keep your chest up. Keep your heels on the ground. Drop your butt right between your feet. We are trying to keep the pelvis as level as possible and those cues will help. A professional ballet dancer told me once (referring to the pelvis almost as a bowl of water): "don't let it spill out." You'll find that to maintain this, you'll need to keep the abdominals as tight as possible. This form will keep the torque and tension in your posterior chain. Personally I've found that squeezing my butt as hard as I can at the top of each squat (or deadlift for that matter) also helps me keep the muscle in mind.
2. Poor stimulation for muscle growth
Stairmasters, yoga, air squats, running, etc. won't put size on your butt. In fact, they'll probably take size off of your butt. You want to build muscle. Nothing builds muscle better than five sets of 10 difficult reps. We can do air squats until the cows come home, but there's just not enough stimulation for muscle growth. Pick up a barbell, learn to squat, and do five sets of 10 reps three times a week. Put more weight on the bar as often as possible. You should be nearing failure on your 10th rep every set. You will have a huge butt in 12 weeks. I guarantee it:
Use a barbell. No smith presses, leg presses, machines, quarter squats, barbell pads, dumbbell alternatives, etc. A squat is the most essential physical movement, so invest some time to learn how to do it. Nothing will yield better results.
3. Unrealistic expectations
Bridges, planks, walking up hills, and other fancy things are nowhere to be found in the realm of big booty. Outstanding results require outstanding effort. The women I've seen with the best bodies are the ones who are doing barbell lunges across the gym and bulgarian split squats like it's their job. You need to have the expectation that you will not be able to walk down the stairs after your workout. That's where muscle is built.
I realize you said you don't have access to a gym or equipment. I think this sort of relates to your unrealistic expectations. Just as you can't expect to be good at fly fishing without a fishing pole, you can't expect to bodybuild without weights. If you absolutely can't spare the money for the weights or a gym membership, you can do things such as craft atlas stones or dumbbells from concrete, or forage for heavy rocks, or use logs or something. It's possible, I suppose.
You can provide a good deal of stimulation to your muscles with body weight exercises such as the pistol squat, but you shouldn't expect to get very good results from this. Without weight, I wouldn't expect to get a butt. You might expect to lose bodyfat to reveal the butt you currently have, but without leaving your comfort zone, your results probably won't be very significant. I'm not saying it's not possible, and that you should be completely disheartened, but just throwing a gym bag in your car and stopping at a gym a few times a week on your way home from work, to me, seems much more practical. You could start seeing results like those pictured above in a matter of weeks rather than struggling with inferior methods at home.
Best of luck!